{"id":2834,"date":"2026-09-18T19:40:52","date_gmt":"2026-09-18T10:40:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.earthinus.com\/?p=2834"},"modified":"2026-09-30T19:49:33","modified_gmt":"2026-09-30T10:49:33","slug":"%e5%a5%b3%e6%80%a7%e7%94%a8%e6%80%a7%e6%84%9f%e3%83%9e%e3%83%83%e3%82%b5%e3%83%bc%e3%82%b8%e6%96%bd%e8%a1%93%e6%97%a5%e8%a8%9815%e3%80%90%e4%bb%a5%e5%89%8d%e3%81%8b%e3%82%89%e5%a5%b3%e6%80%a7-2-2-2-81","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.earthinus.com\/en\/2834","title":{"rendered":"Soft BDSM Felt Surprisingly Good\u2014and I Discovered Kinks I Never Knew I Had | Jofu Experience #99"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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This session was with Nami, a 23-year-old office worker. Her reason for applying was, \u201cI wanted to understand myself better and experience more pleasure.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pre-Session Consultation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u203bThe conversation below has been recreated from notes taken on the consultation sheet. No recordings were made.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sexual Experience<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Have you ever used a jofu service or had a sensual massage for women before?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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No, this is my first time.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

How old were you when you first had sex, and how many people have you had sex with in total?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I\u2019ve had sex with two people. I first had sex when I was 17.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Are you currently in a relationship?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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No.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

What is sex usually like for you, and what has it been like with previous partners?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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It did feel good, but it gradually started to feel more like an obligation. A lot of the time, I felt like I had to focus on making the other person feel good. I didn\u2019t dislike it, though. I think they did spend enough time on foreplay. I also exaggerated my reactions a little sometimes.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

About Orgasms<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Have you ever experienced clitoral, vaginal, or mind-induced orgasms?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I\u2019ve had clitoral orgasms. I\u2019ve never had a vaginal or mind-induced orgasm.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

How do you feel after a clitoral orgasm? Can you have another one soon afterward?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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My arousal doesn\u2019t really go down much. I can have another orgasm afterward, although it\u2019s not always easy.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Have you ever reached orgasm from stimulation by a partner?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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Yes.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

What do you imagine vaginal and mind-induced orgasms feel like? Have you heard much about them?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I imagine vaginal orgasms must feel really good. I think of clitoral orgasms as more surface-level, while vaginal orgasms feel deeper. I don\u2019t really know what a mind-induced orgasm is like.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Sexual Preferences<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

How do you usually masturbate, and how often?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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About twice a week. I use my fingers while reading manga or occasionally watching videos. I read all kinds of manga, including BL and GL. I don\u2019t like anything rough where the other person genuinely seems unwilling. Soft BDSM is okay, though.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Do you have any particular kinks? What kinds of sexual situations have turned you on in the past?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I\u2019m not really sure.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Are there any types of play you are interested in or would like to try?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I\u2019m not really sure.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Are there any types of play you are uncomfortable with or do not want to try?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I don\u2019t like anal. I also really don\u2019t like having my ankles touched. Even if someone just grabs or touches them, it makes me want to kick them away. The idea of being restrained so that I can\u2019t move also scares me a little.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Would you describe yourself as more dominant or submissive?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I\u2019d say I\u2019m submissive.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Additional Information<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Do you experience pain during intercourse?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I\u2019ve experienced it once or twice before, but generally no.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Do your clitoris or nipples tend to become painful during stimulation?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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No.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

How sensitive do you consider yourself to be? Are there any areas of your body that are particularly sensitive?<\/p>\n\n\n

\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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I think I\u2019m about average. Internal stimulation feels good, and my nipples feel good too. With my ears, it\u2019s about half pleasurable and half ticklish.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

Session Details and Impressions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

My first impression when we met was that she seemed calm and composed, and that she was someone who communicated clearly. At the same time, she also appeared a little nervous. During the consultation, she often expressed anxiety and fear about sexual situations, and she seemed like the type who tended to think things through intellectually rather than simply following her physical sensations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Based on her past experiences, she seemed somewhat cautious about letting someone else take control, while at the same time certain passive situations could also be arousing for her. She herself had not yet fully figured out what suited her. She also asked a lot of detailed questions about how vaginal orgasms work and the purpose behind different parts of the session, so I thought the session might be somewhat challenging when we began.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I actually started touching her body, she showed small movements in response to feather-light touches around her waist and back, but they seemed closer to reflexive ticklish reactions than signs that she was becoming absorbed in the sensations. I encouraged her to relax and also tried guided imagery, but she seemed to be thinking about many different things in her head, so her reactions did not deepen very much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After moving to the bed, I continued guiding her through breathing and different body positions, but she was also hesitant to make sounds, and the trance-like state remained fairly shallow. When I held her legs in place and gently moved her body, she began twitching. When I synchronized a countdown with stimulation around the vaginal entrance and shallow internal stimulation, I saw movements that looked close to a mild vaginal orgasm. However, the changes in her breathing and facial expression were still subtle, and it did not seem strong enough for her to clearly recognize the pleasure herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her responses to internal stimulation and penetration also remained fairly shallow, and at first she was unable to fully reach orgasm from external stimulation either. Oil massage and breast stimulation did not produce any major change, but after adjusting the location of the stimulation again, she was eventually able to have a clitoral orgasm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we talked during a break, she said that actively moving herself might suit her better than simply remaining passive. She also said that she liked kissing and that kissing had been especially important to her during penetration in past sexual experiences. So we tried the cowgirl position while focusing on kissing. Her body responded more strongly than during the first attempt, and there were moments when she continued to twitch from the aftereffects of the stimulation. I think she was experiencing a mild vaginal orgasm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Overall, she seemed like someone who tends to overthink when simply leaving everything to the other person, which makes it difficult for her to enter a deeper trance-like state. Her arousal increased when we used positions where she could actively participate and combined them with something she already knew she liked, such as kissing, but during this first session her responses remained relatively mild. Going forward, it seemed important to create a strong sense of safety while increasing the number of situations where she could participate actively rather than simply receiving stimulation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Post-Session Questionnaire<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

What made you decide to book a session?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wanted to understand myself better. I wanted to experience more pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What was your impression of the therapist?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fresh, clean-cut, and handsome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How would you rate your satisfaction with the session on a scale of one to five?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2605\u2605\u2605\u2605<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Please feel free to share any comments about the session or a message for the therapist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You listened to me very carefully. Even when I struggled to find the right words, you made an effort to understand what I meant, and you explained things such as what a vaginal orgasm is like and how different sensations can feel. That helped me understand myself better, and I thought the session was very good.
Thank you very much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Additional Thoughts Shared by Email<\/h2>\n\n\n
\"\"Nami<\/span><\/div>
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Thank you very much.
I booked this session because I wanted to understand myself better and learn more about what pleasurable orgasms can feel like.

This was my first sensual massage, and I don\u2019t have much sexual experience, so I was nervous at first. But from the moment we met, you had a gentle and approachable manner, and our conversation felt natural and enjoyable, so I gradually began to feel more at ease.

The consultation was very thorough. You listened carefully to my concerns and explained that during the session it was important to let myself surrender to the experience rather than constantly analyzing everything. Even when I couldn\u2019t see because of the blindfold, you guided me on how to move and helped build my arousal, so I was able to relax and let go without feeling pressured. I think that helped me focus more on my own sensations and emotions.

For me, the advice you gave during the consultation about \u201cnot thinking too much\u201d was difficult to follow, but you paid close attention to how I was feeling and reacting. Even when I couldn\u2019t properly put my sensations into words, you kept changing your approach and searching for what worked best for me, which I really appreciated.

I was nervous during the first half and had difficulty reaching orgasm, but in the second half we tried many different things and I ended up orgasming several times. My body wouldn\u2019t stop twitching. I had always thought things like spanking and choking were scary, but during the session I became much more sensitive to them, and I was surprised to discover kinks I never even knew I had. By the second half, I think I was even starting to respond strongly to just the sound of the countdown.

You also gave me advice about my own sexual tendencies and about how I could make a future partner feel better if I enter another relationship. That was very helpful. You were also able to put my current situation into words in a way I couldn\u2019t, and I feel like I understand myself better now.

The experience felt much safer and more enjoyable than I had imagined.
Thank you for being so attentive throughout the entire session and for giving me such a valuable experience.<\/p>\n<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n

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