Soft BDSM Felt Surprisingly Good—and I Discovered Kinks I Never Knew I Had | Jofu Experience #99

This session was with Nami, a 23-year-old office worker. Her reason for applying was, “I wanted to understand myself better and experience more pleasure.”

Pre-Session Consultation

※The conversation below has been recreated from notes taken on the consultation sheet. No recordings were made.

Sexual Experience

Have you ever used a jofu service or had a sensual massage for women before?

How old were you when you first had sex, and how many people have you had sex with in total?

Are you currently in a relationship?

What is sex usually like for you, and what has it been like with previous partners?

About Orgasms

Have you ever experienced clitoral, vaginal, or mind-induced orgasms?

How do you feel after a clitoral orgasm? Can you have another one soon afterward?

Have you ever reached orgasm from stimulation by a partner?

What do you imagine vaginal and mind-induced orgasms feel like? Have you heard much about them?

Sexual Preferences

How do you usually masturbate, and how often?

Do you have any particular kinks? What kinds of sexual situations have turned you on in the past?

Are there any types of play you are interested in or would like to try?

Are there any types of play you are uncomfortable with or do not want to try?

Would you describe yourself as more dominant or submissive?

Additional Information

Do you experience pain during intercourse?

Do your clitoris or nipples tend to become painful during stimulation?

How sensitive do you consider yourself to be? Are there any areas of your body that are particularly sensitive?

Session Details and Impressions

My first impression when we met was that she seemed calm and composed, and that she was someone who communicated clearly. At the same time, she also appeared a little nervous. During the consultation, she often expressed anxiety and fear about sexual situations, and she seemed like the type who tended to think things through intellectually rather than simply following her physical sensations.

Based on her past experiences, she seemed somewhat cautious about letting someone else take control, while at the same time certain passive situations could also be arousing for her. She herself had not yet fully figured out what suited her. She also asked a lot of detailed questions about how vaginal orgasms work and the purpose behind different parts of the session, so I thought the session might be somewhat challenging when we began.

Once I actually started touching her body, she showed small movements in response to feather-light touches around her waist and back, but they seemed closer to reflexive ticklish reactions than signs that she was becoming absorbed in the sensations. I encouraged her to relax and also tried guided imagery, but she seemed to be thinking about many different things in her head, so her reactions did not deepen very much.

After moving to the bed, I continued guiding her through breathing and different body positions, but she was also hesitant to make sounds, and the trance-like state remained fairly shallow. When I held her legs in place and gently moved her body, she began twitching. When I synchronized a countdown with stimulation around the vaginal entrance and shallow internal stimulation, I saw movements that looked close to a mild vaginal orgasm. However, the changes in her breathing and facial expression were still subtle, and it did not seem strong enough for her to clearly recognize the pleasure herself.

Her responses to internal stimulation and penetration also remained fairly shallow, and at first she was unable to fully reach orgasm from external stimulation either. Oil massage and breast stimulation did not produce any major change, but after adjusting the location of the stimulation again, she was eventually able to have a clitoral orgasm.

When we talked during a break, she said that actively moving herself might suit her better than simply remaining passive. She also said that she liked kissing and that kissing had been especially important to her during penetration in past sexual experiences. So we tried the cowgirl position while focusing on kissing. Her body responded more strongly than during the first attempt, and there were moments when she continued to twitch from the aftereffects of the stimulation. I think she was experiencing a mild vaginal orgasm.

Overall, she seemed like someone who tends to overthink when simply leaving everything to the other person, which makes it difficult for her to enter a deeper trance-like state. Her arousal increased when we used positions where she could actively participate and combined them with something she already knew she liked, such as kissing, but during this first session her responses remained relatively mild. Going forward, it seemed important to create a strong sense of safety while increasing the number of situations where she could participate actively rather than simply receiving stimulation.

Post-Session Questionnaire

What made you decide to book a session?

I wanted to understand myself better. I wanted to experience more pleasure.

What was your impression of the therapist?

Fresh, clean-cut, and handsome.

How would you rate your satisfaction with the session on a scale of one to five?

★★★★

Please feel free to share any comments about the session or a message for the therapist.

You listened to me very carefully. Even when I struggled to find the right words, you made an effort to understand what I meant, and you explained things such as what a vaginal orgasm is like and how different sensations can feel. That helped me understand myself better, and I thought the session was very good.
Thank you very much.

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