Would you confidently say that you’re good at being on top during sex? Just as there are surprisingly few women who are really good at oral sex, there are also very few women who are genuinely good at the cowgirl position.
During vaginal orgasm sessions, I sometimes teach Session Guests how to move in ways that feel good for the man as well. But because the stimulation is unfamiliar, many of them end up feeling so good that they can barely move. That alone shows how few women are actually using the right kind of movement in everyday sex. But the upside is that it also means it’s relatively easy to become better than average.
Just learning a few small tips about how to move can help you feel much more confident and enjoy sex more actively. Being able to take the lead and make a man feel good in the cowgirl position is just as important as being good at oral sex. And one thing I consistently say throughout this blog is that what excites a man most is seeing the woman genuinely enjoy herself too.
So here, I’ll explain a cowgirl movement that can feel good for both you and your boyfriend—and may also make vaginal orgasms easier for the woman.
A Common Mistake in the Cowgirl Position
One thing many women who say they are not confident in the cowgirl position have in common is that they move mostly “up and down.” Moving vertically takes a lot of energy for the woman, which can make it harder for her to focus on pleasure.
For the man, the movement can also feel repetitive and unstable, which may make it harder to focus on pleasure as well. Of course, some men do enjoy this kind of movement, so it is always best to ask your partner what feels good to him.
A Cowgirl Movement That Feels Good for Him and May Make Vaginal Orgasms Easier
A more effective cowgirl movement is closer to moving “back and forth” rather than simply “up and down.” Unlike the typical cowgirl motion, which resembles thrusting and mainly creates friction along the vaginal walls, this movement makes it easier to feel deeper stimulation, similar to the type of movement used during sex focused on vaginal orgasms. That makes it easier for the woman to concentrate on stronger pleasure as well.
Imagine drawing a figure-eight shape with your hips. While staying deeply connected, keep the softer part of your buttocks close against the man and move your hips back and forth. It is a fairly specific movement, so very few women can do it naturally from the beginning, but once you get used to it, you’ll be able to move faster and more smoothly.
This kind of movement also tends to make it easier for the man to last longer, which can help you enjoy sex for a longer period of time. It is difficult to explain the movement clearly with words alone, so please watch the video below. The woman in the video is an adult film actress, so naturally she is very skilled, but if you can learn to move at around this level, you should be able to make the cowgirl position much more satisfying for your partner.
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You Don’t Need Lots of Sexual Experience to Get Good at Oral Sex or the Cowgirl Position
In my experience, the women I’ve worked with who were especially good at oral sex or the cowgirl position often had relatively little sexual experience. They had simply experimented with different things because they genuinely wanted to make a man they loved feel good, and that naturally helped them become skilled.
Among women from Western countries, I often see much more dynamic grinding movements in the cowgirl position, similar to what you see in videos. With Japanese women, on the other hand, my impression is that many simply stop at “I don’t know how” or “I’m not good at it.” This may sound a little harsh, but a lot of women seem to leave almost everything to the man.
Anyone can improve with practice. Once you become more confident in your own technique, you may also find it easier to take a more active role in both sex and relationships. It benefits both you and your partner, so I definitely recommend practicing until you find a cowgirl movement that feels good for both of you.
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